The People Magazine article, A Deadly Affair, (Bill Hewitt and Amy Green) describes a tragedy that should have never happened:  The murder of Steve McNair by a girlfriend who shot him four times in the head and then committed suicide.  Steve was also a married man.  What the heck is going on? 

I didn’t know McNair personally, but had the privilege of traveling to Mississippi to watch his last football game at Alcorn State University before he was drafted to the pros.  My husband and I, along with a busload of his Louisiana relatives made the pilgrimage to Mississippi at an obscene hour of the morning.  But it was well worth it.  We wanted to witness a professional athlete in the making and on that day, he played magnificently.

Football is the ticket to the American dream for every African American male living in the Deep South and McNair’s future was secured.  He became one of the NFL’s greatest quarterbacks, bought his mother an upscale home, married his college sweetheart (a practicing RN), had four sons, organized charity benefits for Katrina victims and led the underdog Titans to their first Super Bowl game.  But temptation was McNair’s Achilles heel and he didn’t know how to deflect. 

Sahel Kazemi was a 20-year-old waitress who worked at the sports bar that McNair’s family often frequented.  She was well aware that McNair was married. 

It’s an unwritten rule that married men might stray but rarely leave their wives.  Obviously no one told Kazemi.    When my sons become older, I will tell them about the tragedy of Steve McNair as a lesson in life.  I will also share one important rule that might have prevented this horrific debacle:  Do unto to others as you would have them do unto you. 

Why can’t humans follow those simple instructions?

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